He didn't just visit - He moved in: Advent, Suffering & the Incarnation

The season of Advent is just beginning—happy new (liturgical) year! Advent is the perfect time to sit with the staggering mystery of the Incarnation: Our God taking on real human flesh and becoming fully man while remaining fully God. Jesus didn’t come as a mere appearance or hologram. He didn’t “transcend” our humanity—He plunged into it, all the way.

We needed redemption from sin so we could have eternal life in heaven. And God’s love for us is so wild that He refused to save us from a distance. He insisted on joining us inside every corner of the human story—then laid down His life so He could stay with us forever (in the Eucharist here on earth) and welcome us to Himself forever (in heaven).

What does any of this have to do with fertility?

Everything.

Because the human experience of fertility so often includes deep suffering. If you’re reading a fertility blog, chances are you don’t need me to explain that. There are rarely quick solutions, often no easy ones, and sometimes—after the longest, hardest road—you discover there is no solution at all, at least not the one you begged for.

But here is the wildly good news: every tear you’ve cried in this valley has already been cried by God Himself.

He has been

✤ lonely (John 16:32 – “you will leave me all alone”)

✤ tired (Mark 4:38 – asleep on the cushion in the storm)

✤ overwhelmed (Luke 22:44 – sweating drops of blood in Gethsemane) ✤ abandoned (Mark 14:50 – “they all left him and fled”; Mark 15:34 – “My God, why have you forsaken me?”)

✤ angry (John 2:13-17 – driving out the money-changers with a whip)

✤ frustrated (Matthew 17:17 – “How long am I to bear with you?”)

✤ despairing (Mark 14:34 – “My soul is very sorrowful, even to death”)

✤ in pain (John 19:1-3 – flogged, crowned with thorns, struck in the face)

Jesus didn’t just see our wounds from heaven—He wore them. He longs to be near you in yours, because He became man and lived a fully human life so that you would never, ever be alone in your suffering.

And if, some days, it’s still hard to feel Jesus close, let His Mother hold you. God chose her, out of every woman who ever lived, to mother Him through every human hurt. The lap He crawled into as a toddler, the shoulder He cried on as a boy, the hand He held on the road to Calvary—that same gentle, fierce, maternal heart was part of Jesus’ own human experience. And with His dying breath He gave her to us: “Behold, your mother” (John 19:27).

She will sit with you in the dark.

She will help you carry what feels impossible.

She will teach you—slowly, tenderly—how to lay every ache at her Son’s feet.

Wherever your heart is this Advent, wherever this fertility road has taken you, draw close to Jesus and Mary. They are already closer than you think, and They love you more than you could ever imagine.