Myths/Beliefs about Miscarriage

As I sit here writing, two months a newlywed, fears can settle in about pregnancy, fertility, and miscarriage. Fears about “what if I were to ever miscarry?” or have difficulty/complications with pregnancy. Beyond any of my own personal fears are also the fears I’ve heard from friends and clients, and time and time again fears and wrongful beliefs about miscarriage come to the surface. 

This is a very very sensitive topic, and I’d like to treat it with the sensitivity it deserves. I’d like to go through some underlying beliefs/lies that can overrun your life if you've miscarried or have fears about miscarrying. Below are 5 lies/false beliefs that I have heard the most about miscarriage. 

1. I must not be a good Mom if I miscarry

2. God doesn’t think I’d be a good parent 

3. If I miscarry, then I failed 

4. My body failed

5. I will never be able to do this 

The reality is there a numerous contributors that can be causing a miscarriage. Often, the problem is with baby, which leads to the pregnancy not being viable. Other times, it's low progesterone that can be the culprit. Whatever the case may be, I do reccomend reaching out to a Creighton Practitionter to walk through the contributors to miscarriage that are known to help support your body and future pregnancies.

Let's face it. The reality of miscarriage is scary. But when we turn over in our head again and again every possible scenario of miscarriage or let those thoughts take up space rent-free in our minds, it might be that fear is the underlying worry with miscarriage. This list in not exhaustive, but just a few that I've heard. You can replace these with any that you might. be falsely be believing about yourself, your baby, miscarriage, and others.

If you’re familiar with the John Paul II Healing center, they recommend some simple phrasing for rejecting (or what they call "renouncing") these fears and proclaiming (or what's referred to as announcing) what is actually true. Below are some truths that you could replace these lies with.

1. "The thief comes to destroy and steal, but I came that you may have life in abundance." (John 10:10). Now a caution with this. This does not mean that miscarriage will never enter your story. It does mean though that the constant fear of miscarriage is not from God and can be renounced/rejected and the goodness of life that he gives to us, even if entrusted to our care for a short time, is still good.

2. My body is good.

3. God's design and plan for my marriage, my life, my fertility, etc are good. 

Since this isn't an entire dissertation of rejecting/renouncing lies and proclaiming/announcing truths, I will leave this here. At the end of the day, it's important to take to prayer the lies that we are beleiving about ourselves, about God, and about our babies (or any future babies) so he can speak truth into it. Fear was never meant to rule us.

If you'd like help sifting through some of these, please don't hesitate to reach out to a Practitioner today! Feel free to also see John Paul II Healing Center's website for more about this kind of prayer.